When you think about what a kid needs to move through this world, as parents, we can get stuck on the stuff - the diapers, a car seat, supplies for school, dentist appointments. But when we put the stuff aside, we are left with the emotional child. The person.
As parents, we get to be in the thick of it from day one. All the guts and glory of tantrums, heart ache, and celebrations.
Regardless if we want it to be this way, we impact our children’s core beliefs about themselves and how they interact with this world. We can be intentional in building up those beliefs, or we can flippant.
Today along with my co-host Caity Mehl, we’re going to go through the 6 basic needs of children that influence how these core beliefs develop.
Book recommended for further reading:
Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.
Child Protective Services. Department of Child and Family Services. Childhood Advocacy and Protective Services…CPS, DCFS, CAPS.
Today, specifically - FCCS - Franklin County Child Services.
These organizations and departments all exist to ensure families - and most times, specifically children, are being cared for in a way that ensures their health and safety.
The notion that a representative from one of these agencies would appear at your door and have the power to separate you from your is terrifying.
As doulas, Caity Mehl and I are sometimes supporting clients who experience a postpartum mood or anxiety disorder - and a very real fear some have about getting help, is the possibility that in doing so, one of these agencies would come and take their kids.
It is a mysterious world that these agencies operate in, and one that is surrounded by shame brought on by society’s limited understanding.
Today, Caity Mehl, my co-host, is going to share a personal journey with her interactions with Franklin County Child Services. She is quick to share that she realizes this is not the experience all could expect. But, spoiler alert - it ends well, and she hopes to dispel some fear surrounding the people who work with and for these agencies.
Thanks for joining us for another episode of A Swift Moment. I’m Ariel Swift from Doulas of Chicago and in conversation again today is Caity Mehl of Columbus Birth & Parenting.
We are responding to a comment from a doula who posted in our facebook group The Tough Love Doula Group. She says in response to a live video, “I’ve listened to this section on being a Stay at home mom and/or a house wife and doula and business owner several times. Would love to hear more thoughts on this. This I say reality right now. Try to do all the things. It’s exhausting.”
WE know! WE. Know.
So we are going to unpack this a little bit and hope it’s helpful!
If you have comments, feel free to shoot them over to our facebook page and we’ll continue the conversation together.
Let’s dive in…
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