Chatting with Rebecca Lynn Craig of both Thread Fox Handmade Goods and Emoudior, embroidery businesses that came unexpectedly after she became a parent. She discusses being raised in a conservative home, and how getting pregnant was both expected, and difficult, and a whirlwind moment of finding our she has PCOS. 

This is a conversation about sex positive parenting, body image, and following one's passion.  I hope you enjoy! 

To view Rebecca's work, you can visit: 

Emboudoir Facebook Page
Emboudoir Instagram Page
Thread Fox Handmade Goods Facebook Page

Thread Fox Handmade Goods Instagram Page
Thread Fox Handmade Goods Etsy Page

How do you make your doula business sustainable?  One key component is back-up support, or doula partnerships, or a strong community pool.  Today join Ariel Swift and Kara Plante, doula partners, as they discuss how they finally found each other and worked to make a successful team to care for labor and postpartum families in Chicago.  

The struggles of finding the right person, and then layered pain of competition and communication - with intentional interactions Ariel and Kara have been through many phases of doula work and have landed on a system that works.  

Part of that system is a solid prenatal appointment with their labor clients, and just like their friendship, this key component of their work with laboring people in Chicago has changed in the four years they've been working together. 

Take a listen and leave a comment!

Making the choice to be childless comes with an onslaught of commentary.  Even though we are just starting to publicly acknowledge that childless family members actually are a gift to everyone they know, to the public they are a mystery.  

"Why," is the common question, and everyone has opinions about how to "fix" it.  

"Oh, you have time."

"It will happen for you."  

In this episode, I chat with Ciara Johnson, an international principal at a 4-12 grade school in Saudi Arabia, and how her and her husband's choice to be childless has impacted their lives.  She is also my sister, and a GOAT auntie.  
 

Emotional Labor: The load. The mental labor.

Author Gemma Hartley sums it up in the introduction of her book Fed UP: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward as, “a special kind of invested effort encompassing the anticipation of needs, the weighing and balancing of competing priorities, and the empathy of putting oneself in someone else’s shoes, among other factors.”

Or, in everyday life it’s knowing about homework assignments and meal planning. It’s how holidays magically seem to happen. It’s remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and when to buy toilet paper. It’s a lot, but it is also invisible.
The invisible work that women have predominately been keepers of and responsible for passing on to generations is finally coming to the forefront and we’re wondering, there has got to be a better way.

Gemma admits this is still the beginning of the conversation, but it’s an exciting beginning. 

Fed Up is a book that explores how our culture got to this moment, how engrained emotional labor effects women in the home, workplace, and culturally at large, and starts to ask questions about why we need this work to be seen and valued.


We recommend taking advantage of the book group discussion questions available on Gemma's Site.

When you think about what a kid needs to move through this world, as parents, we can get stuck on the stuff - the diapers, a car seat, supplies for school, dentist appointments.  But when we put the stuff aside, we are left with the emotional child.  The person. 

As parents, we get to be in the thick of it from day one.  All the guts and glory of tantrums, heart ache, and celebrations. 

Regardless if we want it to be this way, we impact our children’s core beliefs about themselves and how they interact with this world.  We can be intentional in building up those beliefs, or we can flippant. 

Today along with my co-host Caity Mehl, we’re going to go through the 6 basic needs of children that influence how these core beliefs develop. 

Book recommended for further reading: 
Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.

Child Protective Services.  Department of Child and Family Services.  Childhood Advocacy and Protective Services…CPS, DCFS, CAPS. 

Today, specifically - FCCS - Franklin County Child Services. 

These organizations and departments all exist to ensure families -  and most times, specifically children, are being cared for in a way that ensures their health and safety. 

The notion that a representative from one of these agencies would appear at your door and have the power to separate you from your is terrifying. 

As doulas, Caity Mehl and I are sometimes supporting clients who experience a postpartum mood or anxiety disorder - and a very real fear some have about getting help, is the possibility that in doing so, one of these agencies would come and take their kids. 

It is a mysterious world that these agencies operate in, and one that is surrounded by shame brought on by society’s limited understanding.

Today, Caity Mehl, my co-host, is going to share a personal journey with her interactions with Franklin County Child Services.  She is quick to share that she realizes this is not the experience all could expect.  But, spoiler alert - it ends well, and she hopes to dispel some fear surrounding the people who work with and for these agencies.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of A Swift Moment.  I’m Ariel Swift from Doulas of Chicago and in conversation again today is Caity Mehl of Columbus Birth & Parenting.

We are responding to a comment from a doula who posted in our facebook group The Tough Love Doula Group.  She says in response to a live video, “I’ve listened to this section on being a Stay at home mom and/or a house wife and doula and business owner several times.  Would love to hear more thoughts on this. This I say reality right now.  Try to do all the things.  It’s exhausting.”

WE know!  WE.  Know. 

So we are going to unpack this a little bit and hope it’s helpful! 

If you have comments, feel free to shoot them over to our facebook page and we’ll continue the conversation together. 

Let’s dive in…

Caity (Cole) Mehl and I share our conversation on Resentment from a Facebook Live from The Tough Love Doula Group.  We share insight into resentment in doula work, as business owners, but in personal situations.