But for pregnant women...and let me stop right here...
DISCLAIMER: I'm not going to tell you what to do. This post isn't about the positive or negative effects that the latest study (and there are gobs of them out there) has shown caffeine to have on our bodies, or our babies.
This is about self care. How do you take care for yourself so you can be the best YOU moving forward?
So back to it...
...But for pregnant women, they are bombarded with lists of foods and drinks they are no longer allowed to consume.
For a lot of people, coffee is part of their self care. It is a simple way to take minute, or ten, to take a break, go to a place that makes them feel good, and...wait for it...FEEL GOOD! To invest in their own joy.
There are so many things about pregnancy that don't make women feel good: vomiting, back pain, no sleep, frequent peeing. Even for women who say, "I loved being pregnant!" there are times when it sucks to need help putting your own shoes on.
For the first two trimester's of my pregnancy, I couldn't stand the smell or thought of drinking coffee (this from a woman who has competed in the US Barista Championships). I was so sad that a place I found so much comfort and community no longer offered that to me. So I sat on the fringes - at the bookstore that had a coffee shop in or near it!
But! As soon as the third trimester hit (almost to the day), my body shifted and I NEEDED a cup of coffee. There was no doctor that could convince me that it was not safe/ideal/appropriate/ for me and my baby.
For me, the need to be around, smell, hold, and enjoy this delicious beverage was a critical part of my self care that I had been unable to tend to for 6 months. It was wonderful to feel like my old, non-pregnant self a few more times before embarking on a role that would change me forever.
And, I don't think it will be a surprise, I still adore coffee. I love coffee shops. I love the people who love coffee shops. I even love the grouchy guy in the corner of the coffee shop who seems to hate everyone in the coffee shop!
I use coffee to talk about self care because this is what resonates for me.
But self care for you while you are pregnant, a new mom, or a seasoned professional mom will look different. Do you have a lotion that makes you close your eyes and enjoy the moment? Do you have a hair dresser that can send you to heaven with her scalp massage? That is what I'm talking about.
You cannot give up on the things you need to feel good when you become a parent. You will not be the YOU your family needs you to be. It is hard to stop and say, "I am worth this. I need this break." But I promise the world will not stop because you took a walk by yourself, bought some fancy shower gel, or took yourself out to a movie.
Be good to you so you can be there for your family.
And if you are in Chicago, hit me up and we can go grab a fantastic cup of coffee.
Authored by A Swift Doula