You may be freaking out about how to make baby's first Christmas (or Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah) absolutely perfect. You may be stressed out, already, about starting new family traditions or keeping up with well established roles.
Lets open ourselves to an idea: becoming a parent gives us the opportunity to experience joy, belonging, and love, but there is no guarantee it will be done perfectly. We may try to keep the idea of perfection that comes with each new baby alive along as possible, but if you let go of your idea of what should happen, you open up to the possibility of what could happen. And that may be 100 times better than you imagined.
So a few things...
All your baby wants is...YOU
You Don't Have to Do it all
And to help, some tools...
Your family is your family. It's perfectly fine to decline an invitation so you can have a less stressful holiday.
2) Simplify gift giving.
Think of setting limits on spending so you aren't stressed about finances instead of enjoying the time with your family.
3) Give freely the things you can.
Kind words, gratitude, a hug, or a smile will go a long way. If you are focused on the positives in this season, you will help yourself, and leave warm feelings in your wake.
4) Enjoy yourself.
Being able to create new memories filled with laughter and fun is a wonderful introduction for your new baby at the holidays. Find ways to laugh, even if it's at yourself.
I hope with all the coming holidays you are able to start the traditions of gratitude and joy with your new baby. And sleep, or a steady supply of pumpkin lattes.